I'm a good guest, in that I come prepared. Even if I am just going to a neighbors, there is usually a snack and a drink in my bag so that I don't try something new out of hunger. I usually carry healthy, organic snacks, and I share.
I've been thinking about this because Grace had her birthday party this weekend and A. and I went to help wrangle the hordes of kidos dressed up as princesses and super heroes. All in all it was a very successful kid fantasy of a birthday party, with a princess cake, castle piñata and lots happy kids. I realized after the party, not once did anyone offer me a piece of corn-syrup filled cake, ice-cream or candy, despite the fact that all the kids and their parents were munching away. Not once did I have to stop and say, "No, Thank you I'm Allergic." I was just another grown-up doing my grown-up duty of encouraging tulle-clad princesses around the room to the next game. My real friends don't try to feed me anymore, they've learned that almost everything 'normal' has corn in it.
- Don't try to feed me
- Do wipe down their children after they eat
- Do keep the obvious allergens "secured" when I am at their house
- Do ask before they cook or spray anything around me
- Do let me bring the ingredients if they really want to cook something for me and let me help (Thanks for the Fry Bread H & M, I'm still dreaming about it)
- Do invite me over for lunch or dinner and let me bring my food -- I want to go out, I just need to bring something safe
- Don't eat ALL of my special food, but do try it
- Don't use air fresheners or smelly candles when I are coming over
- Don't bother to offer me thing they know I am allergic to, even when everyone else is eating them
- Know how to use an Epi-pen and where I keep my emergency medicines.